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The therapist I saw offered little hope of my situation changing; we cannot remold our spouses. But they missed the point entirely. Stay married for yourself.
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Stay married for another shot at a great marriage with the person your kids call Mommy or Daddy. Divorce gets you from -5 to 0 on the life satisfaction scale.
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Rose-colored glasses are actually part of most happy marriages. Your kids want you to fall in love all over again with their other parent. Give it a try. Tell me, did your parents stay married for the kids?
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I grew up an insecure, fearful child. Now, as an adult, I've Matried had to work at not repeating either of my parent's examples. The simple witnessing of an abusive relationship is damaging to a child.
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My father wasn't santing, and I was not going to do the same. Fastfoward, we have been married 8 years now, and I have been trying to get out every since. We have done the counseling 3X, didn't work. I have tried to leave sevetal times, twice she tried to kill herself.
She's never happy, a Debbie downer, about everything and has 0 patiece. Hence why I wanted to end it in the first place. And, you think I should stay? I love the kid, konely not the mother.
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